Key keywords: Graham Platner, unsettling dating behavior, dating misconduct allegations, former partners of Graham Platner, dating app safety, dating red flags, intimate partner harassment, Platner dating controversy A recent investigative report first published by independent lifestyle outlet Date Safe Review has brought forward shocking testimonies from seven women who dated 34-year-old San Francisco-based software engineer Graham Platner between 2017 and 2024, all describing consistent, patterned unsettling behavior that left them feeling unsafe and disrespected. All seven women connected with Platner via mainstream dating apps including Hinge, Bumble and Tinder, with most saying they were initially drawn to his seemingly polite, high-achieving public persona and shared interests in hiking and indie music. 29-year-old graphic designer Lila Mendez, one of the first women to share her story publicly, recalled that on their first date at a downtown Brooklyn wine bar in 2022, Platner repeatedly pressured her to order more alcoholic drinks even after she stated she was driving and would only have one glass. When she refused his fourth request to order another drink, he became visibly hostile, grabbed her phone from the table without permission to scroll through her text messages, and only returned it after she threatened to call the bar manager. Another woman, 32-year-old elementary school teacher Hannah Cole, who dated Platner for four months in 2023, told reporters that he quickly exhibited controlling behavior after their third date: he demanded access to her location sharing at all times, called her over 15 times a day when she was at work, and deleted three male contacts from her phone while she was in the shower, later claiming he “didn’t trust her to be loyal” when she confronted him about the incident. 27-year-old pediatric nurse Sarah Jenkins, who ended her short relationship with Platner in early 2024, shared that he stalked her outside her apartment building for 11 consecutive days after the breakup, sent over 200 unsolicited text messages and voice mails, and even contacted her workplace supervisor to make false claims that she was abusing prescription drugs, an act that almost cost her her job. All seven women have provided supporting evidence including screen recordings of text exchanges, date receipts and witness statements to corroborate their claims. Platner, through his legal representative, released a two-sentence statement earlier this week calling all allegations “false, fabricated and motivated by spite”, claiming all the women were “reacting to being rejected by him for long-term relationships”. Local domestic violence advocacy group Safe Dates NYC has reached out to all the women to offer free legal support and mental health counseling, while major dating apps including Hinge and Bumble have permanently banned Platner’s profiles across all their platforms following the report. Local law enforcement has confirmed that three of the women have filed formal harassment reports, and an active investigation is currently underway.